The Order, Mages, and Everyone Else
I've mentioned a few times now the "Magical World" (my own term) and "Mundane Society" (also my own term, though sometimes similar things are said in canon) and how they are divided from one another.
It can get confusing trying to understand how exactly this divide works. Especially new players frequently find this cultural divide rather hard to understand.
And such understanding can get rather important when you realize that the second you walk out your front door and leave the Covenant you have to know how to act with which people etc. Even the next village over as it were isn't part of the Covenant, and thus isn't under the purview of the Magical World.
Understanding this requires laying a little foundation in underlying concepts.
Magi see themselves as being just as Ordained if you will as Nobles and even Royalty in the Christian sense (most of the Order is at least nominally Christian) in the Providential occurrence of their Gift. This is seen as proof self evident that the Divine chose them, for whatever unknowable reason, to bear and wield such power. This is a frequent justification for many otherwise questionable acts and assorted aggrandizement of ego.
Nobility and Royalty especially in Mythic Europe are seen as Ordained with the social order of feudalism being ascribed by the Divine. Providence in this is not something generally open to being questioned by most people. Moreover not only is this common belief but it is reinforced with people of sufficient legitimate feudal standing possessing some inherent degrees of Magic Resistance and even the occasional supernatural powers associated with the Divine Realm. While these powers generally are not comparable in power and scope to Hermetic Magic they also are not bound by Hermetic Limits and so can be surprising and deceptively potent at times.
One might also imagine that Nobles and Royalty with self evident claims to Divinely Ordained power would have rather unrestrained egos, and in general I think one would be correct to do so. The power wielded by feudal rulers is well beyond something easily even conceivable to the average contemporary person of today. Similarly the casualness with which it was frequently wielded.
Magi in general are very jealous and defensive of both their time and frequently social standing. Magic is time consuming, resource intensive, and Covenants are an essential part of meeting those needs. Advancing in the practice of Magic requires focus and freedom from immediate and recurring distractions. Any diversion from this to any serious degree results in lost advancement, progress not made and power thus not possessed. This, as discussed previously, is a large part of why Covenants exist. Both in keeping away the normal distractions of "making a living" as it were and also in setting up a "Separate Estate" for Magi outside of Mundane Society where Mundane Lords and Rulers do not attempt to exert the privilege to call upon them for service and take up their precious time.
Lesser Magic Users of various stripes are at times quite ready to provide services to the Nobility of Mythic Europe in exchange for their patronage. They are generally nowhere near the level of magical power of a Hermetic Mage usually such individuals not even possessing the Gift. Such lesser practitioners who directly serve Mundanes as inferiors are generally held in contempt by Hermetic Magi. Sellout Bootlicks at worst (if they actually have magic worth noting) or pretenders to powers they don't actually have at best (their patrons might regard these in the worse light but Magi have a different sense of priority and propriety in action here).
Magi thus generally consider service and subservience to a Mundane Lord or Royal to be beneath their proper station and a violation of the "Separate Estate" of the Magical World.
The prohibition against Mundane Interference in the Code of Hermes is thus first and foremost then about preventing the erosion of this Separate Estate and the subsequent development of undesired levels of entanglement between the Magical World and Mundane Society. One can not expect a King reasonably to be happy ignoring Magi and their affairs ... if a Magus is selling magical weapons to those who would seek to depose him for example.
Much of the various limitations placed on interactions with Mundanes and the Selling of Magical Items and the like to them are based around this general idea that becoming entangled in Mundane Affairs undermines this desired separation between Magical and Mundane and that this ultimately is against the interests of Magi as a whole.
Thus for example the scaled power levels of allowed magical item sales based on the social station of the purchaser is intended to allow for sale of magic but in such a way as to be undisruptive to Mundane Society by keeping the higher end power level of items reserved for those already holding social power.
How does all of this readily translate in a consistent way to how you should treat the village next door?
Unfortunately it really doesn't.
Tribunals all handle these concepts differently by region and beyond that the local relationships of any given Covenant with their local Nobility are highly individual. That said as a general rule the main two approaches are either a public deniability or outright allodial holdings. Public deniability is when the Magi allow and even foster the Nobility in keeping face and being publicly in charge but underneath which they have a firm understanding of not digging into the affairs of Magi. In this type of Tribunal / situation generally the main body of the Order expects this facade to be maintained yet if a given ruler or noble violates it too blatantly they will side with the Magi/Covenant in question in defending their autonomy. It would still be preferred in such situations if the disruption of society and norms were kept to a minimum for all of the usual reasons.
Allodial holdings are essentially where Magi claim their own lands/territory and rule it outright in defiance of Mundane authorities/rulers. There are several examples of this both on the individual Covenant level and across whole Tribunals. Hibernia it should be noted is explicitly accepting of Magi claiming and holding Allods. It is important to note however that this should not be taken as license for Magi to attempt to hold vast swathes of land and accrue temporal power. This would still be considered Interference and seen as very disruptive and negative for the Order as a whole. It is instead explicitly only license to claim and keep what is yours, so to speak, and to defend it from the interference of others.
How then are Magi expected to interact with Mundane Society?
In a word, carefully.
More as outsiders looking into a world that isn't their own than anything else. Much as Mundanes see the Magical World from their point of view.